Marriage is a relationship. When you make the sacrifice in marriage, you’re sacrificing not to each other but to unity in a relationship. The Chinese image of the Tao, with the dark and light interacting-that’s the relationship of yang and yin, male and female, which is what a marriage is. And that’s what you have become when you have married. You’re no longer this one alone; your identity is in a relationship. Marriage is not a simple love affair, it’s an ordeal, and the ordeal is the sacrifice of ego to a relationship in which two have become one.There are two completely different stages of marriage.First is the youthful marriage following the wonderful impulse that nature has given us in the interplay of the sexes biologically in order to produce children.But there comes a time when the child graduates from the family and the couple is left.
Now,they interpret their union in terms of their relationship through a child.
They did not interpret it in terms of their own personal relationship to each other.Second stage of marriage (Alchemical stage):At this level,two are experiencing that they are one.If they are still living as they were in the primary stage of marriage,they will go apart when their children leave.
Daddy will fall in love with some little nubile girl and run off and mother will be left with an empty house and heart, and will have to work it out on her own,in her own way.
That’s because you don’t make a commitment.If you go into marriage with a program, you will find that it won’t work.Successful marriage is leading innovative lives together, being open, non-programmed. It’s a free fall: how you handle each new thing as it comes along.As a drop of oil on the sea, you must float, using intellect and compassion to ride the waves.